My boys can push my buttons.
You would think, at some point, I would be able to remember that I don’t have to argue with my kids. I tend to forget that. Because my boys have learned how to press my buttons in a big way. Today, I’m sharing with you what goes on in my head with my 13 and almost 12 year old.
These are the TOP 3 BUTTONS they push that make me lose my shit and how I’m working to be an adult and calm myself down . I mean, I AM a coach! I should be able to manage my thoughts and emotions, right?!
Button #1: “That’s not what you said!”
My response in my head: “Shit, maybe I didn’t say that, but I can’t remember every damn thing that I *say* on top of running a business!”
What I *actually* say: “Well, it’s what I’m saying now.”
What I’m working on saying: “You might be right.” *I’ve learned that this stops the arguing on both sides pretty quick”
Button #2: “You treat (other son) differently! I would never get away with that BS.”
My response in my head: “For fuck’s sake! You’re not a parent, don’t tell me how to parent!”
What I *actually* say: “When you become a parent, we can have this conversation.”
What I’m working on saying: “Why do you think I treat him differently? It’s because you are two different kids that respond better to different styles of parenting.”
Button #3: “I don’t want to _____.”
My response in my head: “Boo hoo. You have NO fucking idea how easy you have it. I wouldn’t DARE complain about anything for fear of being beaten.”
What I *actually* say: “I don’t always want to go grocery shopping, get out of bed, or go work out, but I do it anyway.”
What I’m working on saying: “You don’t have to always WANT to do it. Sometimes, you just have to be WILLING to do it for the reward at the end.” Since money inspires them, this is helping them get those chores done. They want the reward.
I’m guessing you might have some specific “BUTTONS” that get pushed by your kiddos. I’d LOVE to know that I’m not alone in this. Share with me one of your “BUTTONS” and share this post with a friend that might find this entertaining as well.
PS: Have you noticed an increase in swearing since becoming a mom? Yeah, me too.
This motherhood thing is HARD work!
